True desire is demonstrated by attainment.

That’s a hard proverb for many to swallow. The circumstances of a person’s life is what they actually want, good, bad, or ugly. It suggests that even if a person thinks that he or she doesn’t like where he or she is, some part of the person really does want to be there. That can be confronting and depressing. However it also means that if a person loves where he or she is at, that person is where they truly want to be.

If want to see what a person really wants, see what they already have. This suggests that we all have an internal locus of control. The locus of control is your perceived cause of the effects of our life. If you have an external locus of control, you believe that whatever you’ve acquired or attained was up to chance, external forces, or other people. If you have an internal locus of control, you know the truth that YOU are the cause of everything in your life.

The victor is whomever wants it more.

A different take on this is that the victor is the one who really wants it. People who don’t really want to be rich tend to spend all their cash whenever they get a lot of it. People who really do want to be popular will be out amongst people at every opportunity. It all comes down to true desire vs projected desire, which will be the topic of a future post.

The first step to freedom is accepting that your internal workings have led to everything about you: your family life, social life, financial life, and career. Take responsibility for all that is bad. Take credit for all that is good. The only way to attain more and more is to desire more and more.