Thanksgiving is coming. So are the religious holidays and New Years. This means many hours spent with people you love, reminding you why you don’t normally spend all day with them. If you’re a homebody like me, holiday parties can get aggravating. Here’s a list of ways I’ve learned to cope with weekends with the relatives/in-laws.

1. Pig out

As my grandma used to say as she heaped stuffing on my plate, “During the holidays, calories don’t count.” I don’t know what scientific backing my nana had, but I’ll take her advice anyway. Eat your pumpkin pie. Drink your egg nog. Don’t feel guilty, because as long as you’re with good friends and family, you can laugh it off. Besides, you can always go on a diet in January.

2. Remind yourself how you will miss them as soon as you leave

Up until a few years ago, my house was the one where the whole family assembled for Christmas. The entire time I would stress out and tell me husband “This is the LAST time we ever host Christmas!” Then a few days later I’d always miss everyone. Since he got married, my brother has been hosting Christmas, and I’m totally jealous.

3. Make sure you’re kids are building awesome memories

Remember those awesome holiday parties when you were a kid? Well, back then, your parents were probably stressing out the same way you are now. Your kids on the other hand, will only remember the good times with extended family when they’re older. Don’t forget that.

…and with that I must go tend to my pumpkin pie. Happy Thanksgiving everyone!